A New way of creating your life

A boy becomes a man when he realizes no one is coming to save him.

This is the one realization you must make in order to make something of your life. If you want more out of your life, you have to purposely create it into existence.

Where you are now, is exactly where you deserve to be. And that makes sence, because all the choices you made in the past led you to here.

This sounds harsh, but it's actually beautiful. Because this also means that the choices you make now determine where you end up. And we have our choices under our control.

Thus, we can create our own future. Our own life.

The Old Path

From a young age you are told what to do by the people who surround you. Your parents, teachers, friends. Strangers. And when you are young, and can't think for yourself, you assume everything is true.

You assume everyone got it figured out. So you mindlessly accept what they say. Never doubting them.

"go to school. Go to college. Get a partner as soon as possible. Go into debt. buy a house. Work for 50 years. Retire. Die." Is this really what you want? This is the path to mediocrity.

It should scare this shit out of you.

I hear you thinking: "But what's wrong with the old way of living?". Well, working a job for a 'minimal' wage and then retiring won't cut it anymore. Even if you are making 100k a year. You'll lose against the people who create their own businesses, their own lives.

You are a cost to the company you work for. And with AI on the rise, your job is more insecure that it has ever been. No matter how friendly your manager is, you'll be replaced by a computer the minute they are able to do so.

The New Path

Because you have been indoctrinated for your whole life it is difficult to see other opportunities. Other ways of living. Your mind has been programmed to this doctrine.

In order to figure out our own way of living, you have to deliberately want to create it. You have to be intentional about it.

your brain, your mind is like an union. And the older you are, the more layers it has developed. And thoses layers mostly consist of (wrong) opinions of others, of the world, of yourself. You have a completely wrong image of yourself because you've been indoctrinated and have been indoctrinating yourself your whole life.

In 4th grade, you once blew up a presentation in school. Now you think you suck at public speaking.

You once fucked up with a girl. Now you think no one likes you and you suck at flirting.

It's a self-protecting meganism of your mind. But it's wrong. You are not your past mistakes. Realize this. Don't identify with your past failures and mistakes.

Let. Them. Go.

Instead, think for yourself.

Here's what I want you to do:

• Schedule one hour of free time for yourself.

• Your life literaly depends on it. You can find the time.

• Sit in your room with no distraction. No Phone. No television. No laptop. Just you, a pen and notebook.

• In your mind, go all the way back to when you were young. And ask yourself questions:

• What were you good at?

• What did you hate?

• What did you love to do?

• What did you hate to do?

• What was the first thing you did when you got home?

• Write everything that comes to mind down. No matter how crazy and irrelivant it seems.

The point of this is to go back to before the world told you who to be. To the point were you were 'pure'. Where you mind was the core of the union.

In early childhood your mind hasn't collected all the clutter. By doing this I realized that I always loved reading and creating stories for my little brother. I created stories about meatballs so he would fall asleep.

I also wrote stories about our pets. And later in life, in school and college, writing papers always came like a second nature to me. It was easy. Natural.

When I truely meditated on this, the pieces came together for me. I will become a writer. I have to become a writer. Because that's what I am. Before my parents and teachers told me to go to business school and work for in finance.

The benefits of finding 'your thing'

When you start finding the thing that is meant for your, life will start falling together.

It's easy to find time to pursue your goals when you love what you're doing.

It's easy to learn when you love what you learn.

It's easy to work when your work feels like play.

It's easy to create a new life for yourself when then this life is the life that's meant to be for you because this is you. There's no resistance. YOu are now on the right path that's meant for you.

During your whole life you have been told what to do. You assumed that everything was true. Everybody got it figured out right? Especially your parents.

Your mind has become cluttered with wrong assumptions, wrong ideas, wrong worldviews.

In order to peel your mind you have to go to back to your childhood. To a time when others didn't cast there messed up idealogies on you, to a time when you were pure and free. This is were you find 'the thing' that's meant for you.

Meditate on this.

After you take your time and meditate on your childhood, on your natural skills, you have to set out a direction. A vision. How do I go from this assigned, out of sync life to the life of my dreams?

Start meditating, be present, and take consistent action.

Cheers,

Vincent.